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Day 106: Sometimes We Have to Find Our Knees

In Beauty, Books, life, Sadness, Thoughts on March 15, 2014 at 6:15 am

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If you have ever read the book Little Bee then you probably remember this line:

“Sad words are just another beauty. A sad story means, this storyteller is alive. The next thing you know something fine will happen to her, something marvelous, and then she will turn around and smile.”

Or this one:

“We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, ‘I survived’.”

Some days I feel like I’m writing a very sad story, and some moments I feel like my scars are so deep they’re imprinted on my heart. The cover of the Little Bee story features a black silhouette of Little Bee’s profile and written all over her face is scrawled the title in twisted and tangled letters. I have to admit, I couldn’t even make out the title of the book in the store, and it wasn’t until I began to read that I realized it read–Little Bee. Looking at the book again tonight sitting her aside my computer, I realize the letters are Little Bee’s scars written all over her face, her face then plastered on her story.

Tonight I sit trying to make sense of my own scars, trying to sort out which ones are jagged, raised, white from years of settling, fresh with redness and newness. I’m a thinker. Sometimes I spend hours trying to figure out these scars, how to wipe them away and make myself flawless again. Tonight I am reminded that scars never disappear, they are marks of survival, they are part of our story that got the chance to keep being written.

I fell to my knees in prayer, not because I’m religious, but because I needed some thing else to hear my story even if it was just the air. I needed to show my scars, to itemize them, and then I needed to remember that a sad story means that I am alive and with the flick of a page I will turn around to smile again.

a whit.

Daily Cupcake: A Good Song

In Acceptance, Beauty, Gay Marriage, People on August 8, 2013 at 4:26 am

This is my new favorite BEAUTIFUL song.

or this version.

I heard it on the radio today, and I got confused. Why do people hate people so much? Why can’t we just let people be themselves. Just let them be.

black
white
brown
red
gay
straight
poor
rich
shy
outgoing
beautiful. people.

live on…and be yourself. I can’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. Whatever keeps you warm. Love is patient, love is kind.
a whit.

My Style? Yes folks, I’m Looking For It: Day 61

In Beauty, Blogging, Fashion, Women on August 4, 2012 at 7:05 am

I always love perusing fellow bloggers to see where my next found muse will reside.

Today I found THIS BLOG, and I just had to look through all of her style archives because she does such a great job with her outfits.

I’ll admit, I don’t read many style blogs (because the outfits always add up to $500 a pop–yeah RIGHT) but there are a few really great things about pretty penny:

first:

she takes into account what my good friend Madeline has always told me…you buy a few expensive things to compliment everything else–that’s how you do style on a budget.  You only spend the money on the signature pieces and everything else you get it on the clearance rack.

pretty penny also recycles many of her pieces, in looking through her archives I noted that she recycled many things several times.

the best part about her blog is that she incorporates so many pieces from Kohls and since I am a couponer I definitely KNOW that you can get Kohls clothing practically free because they let you combine their store coupons (you can use Kohls cash with Kohls percentage off coupons simultaneously).

So, I’ve ended up pinning several of her posts and I’m going to see if I can recreate what she has done over the coming months. I’ve got so many of the items she utilizes, I am just terrible at putting them together. We’ll see how this project fix-my-style goes.

challenge 1: since I’ve had these HUE mustard tights sitting in my closet for over a year (I found them on clearance in SF for 3 bucks and just knew they would make something look great).  Well, she’s done it. Can I?

{photo compliments a pretty penny}

HOLSTEE JUNE: OPEN YOUR MIND, ARMS, AND HEART TO NEW THINGS AND PEOPLE

In Beauty, Books, Fiction, Holstee Manifesto, Humanity, life, literature, Men, Thoughts, Women, Writing on June 30, 2012 at 4:13 am

This book kind of pisses me off, kind of.  Anyway, you should read it, if not for anything else then at least for the controversy surrounding it.  I guess the guy James, who coincidentally reminded me of an alcoholic I once dated also named James, made up parts of the entire non-fiction memoir.  He got baited by Oprah (poor guy–not really).  And the funniest part of it all, after a heated law suit it was determined by the publisher that readers could get a full refund of the book by presenting their original receipt, and a ripped out page 165 (in some basement somewhere there’s a HUGE ripped out pile of Frey’s page 165s–or maybe he wanted them back personally), with a signed affidavit that they we’re essentially ‘scarred’ by the intentional misleading facts within the book.  If you did that, you are crazier than the author.

Like any good author though, Frey said that he did feel the facts within the book were ‘true’ for him because that’s how he felt or acted in his own mind, essentially he related his perceived persona versus factual experiences–coo koo AND brilliant (I bet his publisher thought up that one after consulting a literary theorist at Yale).

All of that said, there are parts of this novel that really resonated with me, I even shed a tear or two by the end (which I never would have imagined). Like this one,

If you understand that all things change constantly, there is nothing that you will hold on to, all things change….Trying to control the future is like trying to take the place of the Master Carpenter.  When you handle the Master Carpenter’s tools, chances are that you’ll cut your hand….Knowing other people is intelligence, knowing yourself is wisdom.  Mastering other people is strength, mastering yourself is power.  If you realize that what you have is enough, you are rich truly rich.  Stay in the center and embrace peace, simplicity, patience and compassion.

If you want to shrink something, you must first expand it.  If you want to get rid of something, you must first allow it to flourish.  If you want to take something, you must allow it to be given.  The soft will overcome the hard.  The slow will beat the fast.  Don’t tell people the way, just show them the results.

As James learns to embrace these principals, he begins to heal.  He’s an addict, I am not.  I’ve known addicts, though. One thing you learn from the novel, the most important thing I would argue, is that we all have a piece of addict within us.  Every. Single. One. Of. Us.

The Manifesto says, OPEN YOUR MIND, ARMS, AND HEART TO NEW THINGS AND PEOPLE.

James meets a girl in rehab, Lilly, he loves her very much.  When she is scared or alone, he tells her, “Remember the word Ever.” Ever means always, he means to tell her that he will always love her but I think it means more than that too.  It references this earlier continuum of life, throughout life we must EVER open our souls to the people and things that are around us.  It is in this that the Million Little Pieces come together to make something whole–love.  Love is being whole.

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