Her post focuses on her recognized purpose in this life, a purpose designed specifically for her alone. Of course, her journey isn’t one of isolation though, no, she talks about her daughter, Preslee, and the role little Preslee plays in helping her to see that purpose more clearly.
It’s hard, when you’ve experienced a loss, to see other people living on, doing the things you had planned but that your loss interjected, it’s hard to take 50 steps backward, only to know that you’ll have to make your way forward again.
She entitles her post, “The Princess Dress I Never Saw.” I’m learning, as I grow and develop in my life and my own journey, that there are so many things we imagine happening or plan for–and they just don’t. It’s like Ashley says,
Not long after my daughter died, I remember expressing to my mom how painful it was to watch everyone else reach different milestones with their children….It felt like salt being rubbed into a big open wound, being forced to watch other people’s children accomplish what I longed to do with my own daughter.
I felt this exact same way in my lifetime. It’s been really hard to watch my friends move on with their spouses and build and grow their families. It is like salt to a wound, and it does ache sometimes.
However, someone put it nicely to me the other day,
It is about sowing the seeds of the future and looking forward to the harvest you have planned for.
Sometimes in the midst of everything, it’s hard to remember to rejoice in the reached milestones and the joy of meeting them.
sometimes it’s easier to be mad.
though, it’s always better to be happy
there will always be princess dresses not seen.
But this doesn’t mean we won’t see other things.
a whit who is thankful for good advice.